I’ve had a few years’ experience in my life. I mean, I won’t say I am a wizened ancient (quite yet) but I think I’ve picked up a few things along the way. These are just some truths, at least for me, which I feel could apply to anyone.
I know for sure:
- We all have a need for privacy: Privacy is a big issue for people wanting to live in community. We have this desire, yearning really, to not be alone as we age but we still want to have our own space. In 1943 Abraham Maslow published a psychological paper that changed the way we think of human need. His pyramid begins at the bottom with physiological and safety needs and culminates at self-actualization. What if he left off the need for human privacy?
We all have a need for sisters, biological or otherwise: I completely understand the personal nature of this. I am close to my sister and this is an important part of my life journey. I know some people don’t have sisters or aren’t close to their sisters. That may be where best friends come in to play. We all need a close network, specifically of women, who understand us at our core.- We all need an advocate at hospital: Everyone, regardless of their age, needs to have someone in their corner when they find themselves hospitalized or at the emergency room. Medical issues are terrifying and sometimes we’re not thinking rationally when faced with major decisions. Someone to help us walk through the steps is extremely important.
- Aging isn’t for sissies: I have had more than a few experiences lately that prove to me that aging isn’t for the young. I needed my over-sixty years of life experience before I could possibly deal with all the ins and outs of what it takes to age. I have a great story to share about my experience selecting a Medicare plan but that is best saved for another time.
Four legged companions can get us through almost everything: Cats, dogs, or other pets are amazing company, loyal friends, and great companions. While their lifespans are short they fill our homes and hearts with unconditional love. Losing a pet can be heartbreaking but its better than never knowing the love of an animal in the first place.
As we approach the holiday season and 2015 I think it is important that we take stock of the necessary things in our lives. The things you know for sure may be different than what I know. Start to think about these. Write them down in your journal. They may be critical to your continued journey down the path of community and beyond.
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